Archive for the ‘Psychotherapy’ Category

Beyond Transference and Countertransference

Wednesday, February 23rd, 2011

Beyond Transference and Countertransference

I’d like to bring your attention to a new workshop as part of the 40 Days – Alchemy of Tranquility series. This one, specifically for psychotherapists addresses bringing the perspective of ultimate reality to relativity of the intersubjective field. The main presenter, as always, is Shah Nazar Seyyed Dr. Ali Kianfar, a bona fide Sufi master from an ancient, venerable lineage. He will be joined by a team of therapists and healing professionals, me among them, who have taken on the work of integrating his traditional teachings with contemporary modalities, to offer a secular-spiritual approach to the deeply compassionate work of healing.

This workshop will be offered at the Institute of Transpersonal Psychology in Palo Alto on the weekend of March 5th & 6th. You can register or find more information here.

taking it personally

Friday, April 23rd, 2010

When we have an unpleasant encounter with someone and aren’t able to shake it off, we  are often told that we shouldn’t “take it personally.” But what does this mean? A close look reveals that over-personalizing something implies one or more of several unexamined assumptions:

  • this event is about me
  • this event reflects something about me
  • this event reflects something about my nature
  • this event is about something I’ve done
  • this other person is aware that their action is having an effect on me
  • this other person is aware of what effect their action is having on me
  • this other person intends to have the effect on me they are having
  • this other person is aware of how I am feeling
  • this other person wants me to feel the way I am feeling
  • this other person is responding to something they attribute to me
  • this other person’s attribution is accurate
  • this other person’s action is because of something I’ve done
  • this other person’s action is because of something I’ve said
  • this other person’s action is because of something about my nature
  • this other person knows I exist
  • I deserve to be treated the way the other person is treating me
  • I should feel the way the other person wants me to feel

These aren’t necessarily inaccurate. However,  if we automatically accept them as true, we set ourselves up to carry an unnecessary burden of responsibility. Simply stepping back and noticing gives us the opportunity to consciously evaluate the situation and determine for ourselves what is so.

The fishbowl of life

Tuesday, March 9th, 2010

I just watched a wonderful video clip on Michael Mead’s website excerpted from his CD set “The Soul of Change”, in which he tells the story of a woman who had a pet fish. One day, noticing that the water in fishbowl was cloudy, she put the fish in the bathtub temporarily while she cleaned the bowl. Watching the fish in the tub, she noticed that it swam in exactly the same size circle that it had in the fishbowl, despite that it was in a large tub of water. She immediately understood that this was also our condition, psychologically.

Both psychology and spirituality have pointed out that we live in a very limited internal world. Not just our behavior, but even our identities, have been shaped by our environmental conditions. For the most part, what we think of as ourselves is largely a set of psychological habits. It is as if we are living in a trance.

The promise of this story is that we potentially have a much larger domain of experience available to us if we can find a way to break the spell.

Gary Greenberg on “Manufacturing Depression”

Monday, March 1st, 2010

This morning I heard Gary Greenberg on Democracy Now discussing his new book Manufacturing Depression: The Secret History of a Modern Disease. He made some interesting points. Greenberg’s premise is that the epidemic of the diagnosis of depression is an economically driven pharmaceutical response to the experience of sadness; i.e., the prevalence of antidepressants has established depression as a medical entity. What gets lost are situational and subjective explanations for why we feel sad. When we rely exclusively on chemical solutions we are less empowered to explore the causes of our feelings and take action to resolve them.

“any good therapist”

Sunday, February 7th, 2010

In an interview toward the end of his life (Baldwin, 2000), Carl Rogers said

I find that when I am the closest to my inner, intuitive self –when perhaps I am somehow in touch with the unknown in me–when perhaps I am in a slightly altered state of consciousness in the relationship, then whatever I do seems to be full of healing. Then simply my presence is releasing and helpful. At those moments, it seems that my inner spirit has reached out and touched the inner spirit of the other. Our relationship transcends itself, and has become part of something larger. Profound growth and healing are present. (p. 36)

In the same interview he said, “I recognize that when I am intensely focused on a client, just my presence is healing”, and then went on to say, “I think this is probably true of any good therapist [italics added]” (p. 29).

If this is true, then I find myself wondering how many good therapists there are out there. Presence is the subject of my doctoral research, so it’s something I’ve spend a fair amount of time thinking about over the last few years.

Rogers’ quote suggests that beyond training, theory, or technique the quality of a therapist’s being may be an essential ingredient in the healing process that psychotherapy potentially offers. And it further implies that there can be elements of this relationship that are profoundly spiritual.

Baldwin, M. (2000). Interview with Carl Rogers on the use of self in therapy. In M. Baldwin [Ed.] The use of self in therapy (pp. 29-38). NY: Haworth.